my fragmented thoughts on this.

"....then did I ever stop loving him the way you're supposed to stop loving

everyone but the one you're with?"
--LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH by Emily Griffin

I have always believed that when we fall in love we give part of ourselves to that person we love.
It is what we do when we love, we share ourselves so we can be part of a different whole.
That belief of mine led me to another belief--that when we love someone, we would always
have feelings for that person. The feelings never go away, they might change into something
else or be hidden into oblivion but they would always be just there, ready to resurface at a
slight trigger.

So I suppose we would always be polygamous in that way. I guess we would always be
loving other people aside from the one we're with.

But the difference between the one we're with and the other people we used to love that we
have now established that we still love is that we choose to be with the one we're with.
What sets them apart from the rest is that we made a choice to stay with them.
What matters is not the degree or depth of feelings we have but the choices that we make
because as with everything in life, love is all about making choices.